i think if most people were able to conduct a survey on what the people around them think about them, they would. i imagine a lot of questions, and a scale of “strongly disagree” all the way to “strongly agree” along with a “further comments” section at the bottom. i imagine the questions would sound something like this-
this person has good taste and style: strongly agree, agree, disagree, strongly disagree
this person is too outspoken: strongly agree, agree, disagree, strongly disagree
this person is a slut: strongly agree, agree, disagree, strongly disagree
obviously we don’t go around handing out surveys like this, first of all because we’ll seem like idiots, but also because people wouldn’t put down their true feelings unless you set up an unmonitored and anonymous drop box for the surveys to be put in. in addition, a lot of people probably wouldn’t be bothered to take out a chunk of their time just to fuel your insecurities.
unfortunately for our university lecturers, we do have an unmonitored and anonymous drop box, as well as in-class time to fill these surveys out. what’s increasingly unfortunate is that, like the times we were in junior school, we do not hold much respect or love for our elders. we are able to evaluate parts of their teaching and behaviour, ticking the boxes we see fit, and scrawling that we believe the said lecturer would benefit from some time management skills, or maybe a few extra english lessons. all in the interest of honesty and future development. and judging by my own answers, and the answers of the people around me, i’d have to say that you will always be surprised by someone’s opinion of someone else, especially if that person happens to be you.
so go ahead, hand out a few surveys, ask a few questions; improvements may be on their way. or maybe just a huge sinking feeling of depression. either one.